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Can you remember the first words you said to your wife?
The first day I met my wife, I am not sure I said anything to her.
How did you meet her?
I first met her when she came to see her friend, an actress, at a movie location. After that time, I didn’t see her again but I collected her number and we got talking.
When did you know that you would end up getting married to her?
The truth is that while I was dating, I hardly stayed with a lady for a long time because I love my privacy and the need to be on my own. But when my wife came into the picture, I discovered that I didn’t want her to go and always wanted to be around her. I then realised that she is my wife. I like the fact that despite me being an up-and-coming artist then, she liked me and believed in my dream. That’s the key thing that made me marry her. She saw the future when every other person didn’t see it and she supported and stood by me.
What event made your wedding day memorable?
My wedding day was special to me. I did everything in one day and it was great. During the church service, it rained and the venue was in an open field so I was scared but immediately after the service, the rain stopped. Everything was special. I liked the part where my wife was walking in with the palm wine and looking for me, as is done in the Igbo culture. I had played that role several times in the movies I acted in and for it to happen to me made it memorable.
How has the marital journey been?
It has been great. We just celebrated our seventh anniversary and God has been faithful. The key thing is that I married my friend and God has blessed us with three kids.
I don’t let the marriage thing get into my head, to me, I am still dating her. She is still my girlfriend and that is the way I have been able to manage my home. I learnt how to love from my father. The journey has been smooth and I pray that God will continue to make it smooth.
How have you been able to balance your career and home?
It has not been easy because they are two taxing things, especially with the type of job that I do, creating content, acting, producing and sometimes directing. This takes me away from the house and when you want to manage your home, you need to be in the house to know what is going on but I have been able to strike a balance. I don’t stay outside the house for too long and when I am at home, I devote my whole attention to my family. At times, work is a little bit more demanding because one has to work to ensure that the house is okay.
What has been the best part of your marriage so far?
Having my kids at the time I got them. Everything I planned, God gave it to me the way I planned it and that is important and special for me. I can now enjoy my early marriage and youthful life and have the energy to chase my career and give them (my children) the best life. It has been amazing and all the glory belongs to God.
What’s your advice to young people planning to marry?
My advice is that they should not rush into marriage, know why they are getting married and don’t allow anyone to push them into it. One cannot meet a lady today and say you want to marry her today. It’s not possible. I knew my wife for two years and we were friends because I know that love is not enough. Money is important but it is not everything.
Also, they shouldn’t be pretenders but open to each other, and be a team and each other’s friend. There’s no manual for marriage. It’s what people experience that they share and I share these based on my experience.